Saturday, August 21, 2010

HOW Do You Deal With Guys IN the HOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

i am a 16 year old girl who has just moved to the hood for the first time





the experience ive had with guys in the hood so far is very upfront like they say im thick and compliment my body and say i have a cute face.....which usually isnt how guys come up to me in other places at first





so i wanna kno how do i deal with guys in the hood and how should i react to them when they make SUCH upfront comments at me?





thnxHOW Do You Deal With Guys IN the HOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
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Baby Boo


I want nothin ta do with you.

How can i attract guys to myself? i'm pretty but i guess i just dont know how to deal with guys?

be yourselfHow can i attract guys to myself? i'm pretty but i guess i just dont know how to deal with guys?
hey there ,


just get in touch and i will tell u how to do that ,


feance2003@yahoo.comHow can i attract guys to myself? i'm pretty but i guess i just dont know how to deal with guys?
Practice makes perfect. We have to crawl before we walk. With that in mind...start little by little. You will become an expert soon enough.
relax, be confident. no guy will look twice at a girl who is confused. just be confident, believe in yourself. every person is genetically programmed to find a partner. if u be confident then nature will take its course.





all the best
your obviously not that pretty, you mite think your pretty, but thats ok, as long as you think that...everyone else thinks your ugly...
you need to be yourself. trying to attract guys will only provide crazy horny bastards that want someone to abuse. they'll think that you are desperate and they'll treat you any kind of way. i know how you feel. wait, be patient, it'll come. work on other more important parts of yourself and they may attract the guy of your dreams.
hey ... what's up petty girl ... can reach a guy's heart ??


dont worry i will tell you :


1- do the things that you know a guy is happy to see it


2- wear clothes well :)


3- memorize the guy that you think you like him.. his age his birthday and he will know you like him


4- make up and style are your weapons


5- talk in girls like talk , in ';soft'; way not like guys talkin


6- donot make things bcoz other girls do it


just be what you are , be your self





i hope you will get your guy :)


but give me '; the best answer and i will thank you dear ';


god bless you pretty girl
Why don't we do this. Why don't you put up a pic of you and let us (Q%26amp;A particpants) judge your looks on a scale from 1-10. If you pass the test, then we know it's not your looks. What do you say?
They are probably already attracted to you, but may be shy about showing it. A lot of nicer guys are afraid of coming across as aggressive jerks with a pretty (or smart, or interesting) girl, so we hold back.





When guys show signs of wanting to talk to you, be responsive; let folks see that you're not going to shoot them down in flames for being interested.





This includes being nice to the guys you are just not interested in: a gentle, pleasant, KIND turn-down gives you a reputation as an approachable person. A mocking, nasty, cruel rejection gives you a reputation as a nasty and untouchable b*tch who thinks she's all that! Only be mean to the genuine jerks: the egotistical jocks, the players (or wannabe players, the predators going down a grade or two to find easy prey.
Something tells me that with that attitude, its no surprise that you'll remain single ';super b';.





Anyway to the original poster: you have to be yourself. Do not try too hard to be someone else- people can smell desperation a mile away.





Find whats good about you, what makes you tick, what are your likes and dislikes. For someone else to like you, you have to like yourself first. Try and improve your self-confidence, go out and get some hobbies. Try getting into something new that you can talk about and form interesting conversation with guys about- maybe footbal, cars etc- something that makes you unique and different from the other girls.





Last of all, appear approachable. Smile, make eye contact and be willing to listen to the guy.





All the best :)
feel confident. smile. show your talents as guys get attracted to girls who are talent package. guys love eating, so a girl can prepare nice food for him.take genuine interest in him and he's all yours.... :-)
Learn about yourself. Examine your own interests and find out what is important to you, what you like, music, sports, etc.


Go to places that highlight your interests.


Do things you feel confident doing.


Now you have something to talk about.


Something to break the ice with.


You will attract guys if you look like you are loving life, the kind of guys you want to meet, ones that share your interests.
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  • How to deal with a 'pickup artist'?

    Does anyone know of a website of any kind that shows women how to deal with guys that are 'pickup artists'? How can you deflect his game once you pick up on it so you don't become manipulated?How to deal with a 'pickup artist'?
    If you suspect the guy you are talking to is only in it for the game, the best thing to do when he makes his offer is say no. What more do you need?How to deal with a 'pickup artist'?
    Hahaha why? That's lame of you. He is not hypnotizing you or anything, all it is is they change their personality to become more appealing, sort of like a guy acting like a 'bad boy' and girls get naturally attracted to the person, it's not like it's a false attraction.

    How do I deal with guys who want sex?

    The guys I met in university were decent and they wanted to get to know me and befriend me based on who I was and talked to me about the issues that were important to me. But 98% of the guys that I meet outside of university only want sex. How do you tame them?How do I deal with guys who want sex?
    Uh, say no?How do I deal with guys who want sex?
    basically once you have sex with them they will shut up
    tell them ur having that time of the month.... a period .. they back of them self
    umm have sex with them???
    yeah right. %100 of guys want sex. there is no taming us unless you get us hooked. then we do as you say. yes honey.
    At this state in a man's life, the testosterone is running so high that anything short of a cattle prod won't have much of an effect on them.
    You do not tame them. You tell them NO. They should respect you and your decisions.
    Hunny, that's going to happen your entire single life. There are always going to be guys out there who just look for the next lay. Not that there aren't women out there the same way, because there are. Just tell them you're not interested, and they probably won't be interested in you anymore either. But look, if that's all they want, they aren't worth wasting your time over.
    Try to dress conservative. Show no cleavage and little leg wear loose fitting clothes that cover up your figure.





    Watch what you say. Accept nothing; Do not let the buy you a drink soda, lunch dinner or anything.





    Try not the lead them on; Basically try NOT to be a prick tease.





    Geo
    walk away. tell them to leave you alone.....

    How do you deal with guys your not interested in?

    ive got some guy texting me.. and i never respond but he keeps texting me... i only met him twice.





    im really non-confrontational person so ive just been ignoring him





    then another guy at my works keeps hitting on me and i try to tell him to go away and try to be mean but i duno what to do . to get these weirdos away.. How do you deal with guys your not interested in?
    the work guy is a no-brainer. You should formally file a complaint with the HR department or manager. They'll take it very seriously and he'll either be fired or knock it off. Your only other option in a situation like this is to make a big scene (ie yelling ';LOOK MAN WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM, IM NOT INTERESTED, YOURE NOT GOOD LOOKING'; etc)....and the latter idea doesn't sound up your alley so just complain, that's what managers are for, youre there to work not fight off boneheads who dont get the hint. (fight for your rights)


    With the texter I bet you could have his number blocked. Find out, if you can its probably like $5 and an easy way to deal with it. Otherwise again youll have to confront.





    Ultimately though, it would be good for you to start learning HOW to confront (diplomatically) as otherwise youll continue to run into this barrier in life and waste a lot of time.How do you deal with guys your not interested in?
    i have the same problems!


    you really want nothign to do with them and they just keep trying!! itts sooooooo annoying





    i just stop everything, i started kinda being ';cold'; with them, and thye got the message, then once i told someone and that worked too








    so you can try that


    i know it may sound mean, but its so fustrating



    Thats easy Jane ...





    TEXT back saying piss off this is Janes MAN ...

    Ladies, how should a guy deal with jealousy?

    How should a guy deal with jealousy to make you women happy? It seems like if we don't express it at all, you don't like it because you don't think we care. If we do say something, we are jealous freaks. What should we do?Ladies, how should a guy deal with jealousy?
    The general rule is this:





    Whatever a guy thinks is logical ... is wrong!





    e.g.





    If a lady tells you a problem ...


    she is not looking for a solution ...


    she just needs a listening ear.





    (Logically, a guy would want to solve the problem but that is not the main thing)





    get the idea?





    So, if you feel jealousy about a lady, logically, you would not show it ...





    By applying the INVERSE function ...





    Please show that you are jealous for the lady you love.





    That would make her very happy because you care enough to be jealous. (it is a strange logic for man but it works).Ladies, how should a guy deal with jealousy?
    throw it off cooly but show expressions like it worries u, but don't worry too much!
    The show of your jealousy should not be followed by restrictions and list of DONTS for your woman.





    If you se a guy attracted towards your woman; simply tell her the harms of letting him coming closer to her and then leave it upto her giving her the confidence that you are confident enough of her to handle the situation all by herself. She will fall heads over heals in love with you all over again with this trusting attitude of yours.
    I'm a girl...and boy this is a tricky one! Maybe the best thing to do is to downplay the jealousy when the situation ';warrants'; that you display this emotion. Often by just telling a girlfriend exactly why you are or are not jealous will resolve the situation and make her feel more comfortable about your relationship.
    be jealous..but be reasonable.





    what pisses a girl off is boyfriend being unreasonable when jealous.

    How are you guys dealng with all the swine flu pandimic in egypt?

    my mother is worried, she works as a social worker in school [ekhsa2iya egtima3iya] and she says there is lots of news and news paper articles about the swine flu





    i tell here here in the US, it's not that mentioned.


    it seems to me the government is making it more fearful


    *it's all ';wahm'; to me, since the regular flu killed more people than the swine flu itself %26amp; i was always sick as a child and didn't even get the flu!





    how are you guys dealing with it?How are you guys dealng with all the swine flu pandimic in egypt?
    i pray to God that neither i nor mine catch it .


    but im not scared .


    i fear for those who live or study in overpopulated places .


    i believe that its bark is worse than its bite !How are you guys dealng with all the swine flu pandimic in egypt?
    thats what i've been trying 2 explain 2 these ppl... man they're all so freaked out.


    but normal flue is way worse than swine!!





    anywayz


    salamz


    :D
    my daughter caught swine flu(i'm in the uk) she was really poorly and it affected her asthma. a friend of mine has it and it was no worse than a heavy cold. at worst it's no worse than normal flu. the governments are only panicking because they don't have a vaccination for it and those with vulnerable health issues are the worst affected.
    People are freaking out lol, I think '; its bark is worst than its bite'; as said by above is a good description only 3 deaths till now in Egypt most people who caught it got cured, I know some people myself nth to be afraid of :D
    i know one thing....they are taking it waaaaaaaaaaaaaay too seriously!





    its just like any other flu and here they are delaying school!

    Ladies do you have to deal with guys noticing you in public frequently?

    If so how do you handle it, are you flattered? Do you generally ignore it because it happens so often or does others eyes on you give you the creeps? Thank you for answering.Ladies do you have to deal with guys noticing you in public frequently?
    I like being noticed and I like compliments. I don't like being hooted or hollered at. As long as it is respectful, it's flattering. Most men are respectful, but some think they can just say whatever they want and expect you to respond to it. I have found that the ones that are disrespectful, are usually the most repugnant also.Ladies do you have to deal with guys noticing you in public frequently?
    i'm fine with a flirty smile and prolonged eye contact, but when his eyes are glued to my boobs i'm not too thrilled.
    They love it! Otherwise they would put on some clothes.
    I'm in middle school and I'm new but boys have told me many many times that they like me. Every single one was kicked, punched, embarrassed, or my boyfriend for a while. Stand up for yourself too many ladies get taken advantage of these days.
    I live in the caribbean and caribbean men are much much more vocal towards there pretty women...a lot of them pssst at you call you beautiful ask for your number...when i was in high school they called me butterfly...beauty that couldnt be caught cause i would always just ignore them and walk on by... yeah caribbean men love there pretty ladies and theyll let you know it!
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  • How do you deal with overly dramatic people?

    I am in college, and some of the people there just SERIOUSLY act like we are in high school and just bring up the stupidist unnessacary drama! My ex-best friend aren't on good terms, we haven't talked for about 2 months, out of nowhere, she sends me this incredibly mean message just to start drama!





    I'm SICK OF IT! I'm happy with my friends and my family and my life, I just want these overly dramatic people out of my life!





    How do you guys deal? Let me know.How do you deal with overly dramatic people?
    Drama is like an argument; it needs co-operation of the people around it to exist.





    If you ignore this person's attempt at drama, it will never become drama at all; instead, it will just be her putting on a sad, pathetic little show that no one wants to watch.





    ps - stay away from the funyuns.How do you deal with overly dramatic people?
    try to stay away from those people and another way to deal with it is to be dramatic back and see how they like it:)
    Smack them. HARD.
    As you have discovered, sometimes we grow away from our friends. Some people grow and mature; others do not.





    If someone tries to engage you in a situation you don't want to deal with, just ignore them. There is nothing that says you need to respond to a mean and virulent letter. Your friend can try to stir up crap all she wants, but YOU choose how to respond to it.





    Eventually, when they see you won't participate in that behavior, they go away. Good luck!

    How to deal with guys who like you who I don't like back?

    I told them that I don't see them as more than friends, yet they take that line to the limit by visitin gme at work, walking me to class, to my car. It makes me look like I'm taken but when I'm not and really I wish they would chill. How do I go about this or do I just deal with it? It's hard to avoid them when they know where to find me.





    P.S.


    They aren't stalkers, just I don't like the attentionHow to deal with guys who like you who I don't like back?
    be honest with them and tell them that you only want to be friends, and that you feel that you need a little space at times or you could say your boss isn't happy with their presence whilst you are at work , good luck.

    How do you deal with guys like this?

    Why do most guys like to mess with girls heads???? I just cant figure it out... i mean if you really like someone you should be honest with them.... I dont think it is really fair to just leave someone hanging and all... If you say something and realize you have mad a mistake then tell that person... If your scared then tell them.... But DO NOT play mind games its not fair... anyway... how can you make guys realize this....How do you deal with guys like this?
    You can't....some of us are confused....some of us are easily panic stricken and muddled....some of us are just plain stupid...and others are just a s s holes and enjoy playing mind games cause it makes them feel cool and gives them something to talk about...don't waste your time with that type...not all guys are like that :) - It's all about learning from your mistakes and getting it right in the end - you'll learn to pick out the wrong types - Although for some strange reason you girls always seem to go for the a s s holes first...my only solace is that what goes around comes around and someday they'll get their comeupance.How do you deal with guys like this?
    You can't. WE DON'T CARE. Your only hope is to simply avoid this type of guy.
    it part of growing up and knownig better the next time
    Nimble Nimrod said it all.Be more selective with the person your with.
    plan and simple guys are just dumb when it comes to women

    How can a guy deal with a situation where he gets too much attention from a girl?

    especially when he doesn't want to hurt her feelings or to completely stay away from her either...How can a guy deal with a situation where he gets too much attention from a girl?
    You should be greatful that someone would want to give you attention like that. But you can just politely tell her that you appreciate everything she does for you, but you need a little space. Just do it nicely.How can a guy deal with a situation where he gets too much attention from a girl?
    well u remind me of a senior in my school


    just stay a distance and avoid the attention


    enjoy it and stop thinking that it's undue


    make a gf she'll take care of everything
    maybe she likes you. you have to ignore her atleast for a while so she gets the hint.it might hurt but this is the only way she will know.Just keep your distance without being rude ofcourse. If she comes up to you to talk, excuse yourself after 5 mins. Don't reply to her texts immediately, don't answer her calls. Just let her down gently. She will back off after a while.

    How do you deal with guys like this?

    i went out with a friend last night. we went to see some local bands at a pub. i didn't plan on getting drunk but i did. i don't even remember how the band sounded like.


    anyway, when i was feeling tipsy. there was a guy sitting next to me. he was really stiff. he sat still, not moving at all. and i wanted to tease him so i stared at him and made it really obvious i was staring. he didn't even see me. at the end of the gig, i fell asleep next to him.. and i sort of remember playing with his keyring on his bag. my friend told me to wake up. i got up and he was staring at me.


    he said hi. i said hi back and he gave me a cheerful smile... and then disappeared..


    that was the most wonderful awkward moment in my life!


    i wanted to talk to him but i have no idea how to do it. and i don't understand why he said hi to me and smiled and then disappeared.


    so how do you deal with guys like this?


    i've got a thing for weird quiet guys.How do you deal with guys like this?
    It doesnt matter that u let him go. How to deal with them? thats a toughie, my friends say i have a really bad taste in guys because they're wierd, quiet, sensitive, etc. i dont think it is bad, everyone has a different type of boy. sometimes wierd and quiet can be the most cutest. just compliment and make conversation, its really hard with quiet ones.... :D gd luk!

    What is the deal guy i just dont know?

    ok so i have this guy i have been friends with for like four years. so he and i had not gotten to talk to much since i got out of high school and then one time we talked a while back and he was different more like flirty in a i dont know dirty way a little and i thought he was kidding. so then this past week i missed him so sent him a text and he said he wanted the same thing and i thought he was kidding so i asked him a few more questions and he said that he has always wanted to see it and when i asked what he said everything. i dont get what he wants does he just want to see me, well all of me or is there something he isnt telling me. im not sure how he feels about me, maybe i could get some answers. thanks for listening and for the help.What is the deal guy i just dont know?
    If he is interested in getting to know all of you, literally and figuratively, he will let you know. Don't go chasing his ***.What is the deal guy i just dont know?
    oh my god obviously he wants ***. and you sort of kind of led him on to believe u wanted it to.
    Ignore him he is a pervert.
    sorry i don't get the thingy u sayin//////////1
    He just wants to seeall of you just forget he excists
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  • How can I deal with guys who try to be Alpha males?

    I live in a dorm and there are some guys I know who always try to act like Aplha males - dominating the conversation, preventing others from talking, always trying to catch ppl's attention and get others to listen to them, etc. It is so annoying and I feel quite inferior near these ppl, I hate it and I want to do something to put them in their place.How can I deal with guys who try to be Alpha males?
    You don't have to hang out with that crowd. Making lots of acquaintances is much better than having your little group of friends. This way you are popular but you don't get any of the drama BS that comes with friendships.How can I deal with guys who try to be Alpha males?
    why bother they don't know everything and sooner or later the bottom falls out from under them you just don't want to be close when that happens.pay them no mine and do your thing.
    well, it is cos u feel inferior. i suggest u be superior at least in smth - go to gym and pump muscles, read books and outsmart them, get the prettiest girl on cumpus - do not be inferior. and u can't put them on their place - they will think u just envy them and might even start bullying u
    The best way to deal with guys who try to be Alpha males is to ignore them; unless, of course you are a meer cat, a baboon, a hyena, or another lower animal specie; then, of course, you must fight for your place in the ';pecking'; order.





    Unless you are willing to place yourself in a position to physically or verbally battle with the ';guys'; who are always talking and dominating the conversation in your dorm, your only choice is to just leave any gathering where this is taking place. Walk out. Don't feel inferior to a ';braggart';.
    Try being the alpha male yourself, like talk before they do, don't listen to them when they start talking ,and catch their attention before they catch yours.But be nice about it.
    just don't listen what every they do or say and if they get your business just do what you like to do to them

    What are some really cute quotes about being lied to by guys?

    Like quotes that explain how girls deal with guys lying to them or cheating on them. Or just anything like that. And i want the quote to come out like the girl will be ok and she is strong and wont let it bring her down. Thanks!What are some really cute quotes about being lied to by guys?
    this site has a lot http://quotes--archive.xanga.com/ and so does http://smile--quotes.xanga.com/ and http://pocketful--of--sunshine.xanga.com鈥?/a>What are some really cute quotes about being lied to by guys?
    hold on to the things you get hurt by and push away the things you love just so when the things that you love dont come around and hurt you.
    theres no money in chasing girls but there are alot of girls chasing money

    Girls and Guys suggest some ways to come out from the shyness about girls?

    I am really shy with girls, girls and guys can be please help me to comeout from that?


    How to start having more girls as friends, and i wish to deal with girls like i deal with guys, normal without any preconceptions. where and how can i meet and interact with more girls?Girls and Guys suggest some ways to come out from the shyness about girls?
    I assume your guy. Just stay calm and Think that they are people just like you!! Girls are not godly creatures. They are very easy and fun to talk to if you have confidence and personality. Just be yourself and you'll do fine.

    How to deal with people staring you down?

    I just had a quick question. What is the best way to deal with guys that try and stare you down? I always notice guys from the gym to clubs to just out on the street trying to stare you down and exert some time of dominance. Right now I just ignore them. Is it best to try and stare them back down or just ignore them?How to deal with people staring you down?
    I give a disgusted look and then ignore them. I used to stick out my tongue at people that stared at me.How to deal with people staring you down?
    what i do is stare at them back with an even bigger attitude. something like ';dont mess with me'; stare


    or mostly, i walk around with friends by my side so the next time they stare at me, ill whisper to my friend and then we can laugh about it in his face.
    lol I get that when I'm walking...it's annoying but sometimes it's fun and sometimes it's just plain funny because some of them are pretty pathetic. I usually stare back and just give them a look (either bad or good), or laugh...(they are usually just driving by so it's not like they have time to stop or anything so that's why it doesn't really matter what I do)...
    Unless you're willing to risk a verbal and/or physical confrontation, the better choice is to ignore them. That doesn't necessarily mean you are weaker, it just means you've dismissed them.
    Just ignore it eventually they'll just give up and stop.
    I usually look at them with amusement. It's really funny to me to see those kinds of guys trying to peacock their chest all out and act tough. Guys who do that are out looking for trouble. I think about how stupid they are and have a good smile to myself about it while just looking at them.

    Why are guys so preoccupied with size and mesuring up to others?

    Seems like a lot of guys want to know how tall they'll be, how 'big' they'll get when they're older, how many girls they've had...


    Do they think about girls this way too? I don't want to have a boyfriend who is always comparing and measuring me up to other girls and their friends' girls.


    Is there a certain age where this goes away, or will I have to deal with guys like this my whole life?


    Also, if you could pick a certain part of a girl you like the most (body, personality,etc) what would it be?


    Thanks! :)Why are guys so preoccupied with size and mesuring up to others?
    It's a pretty basic guy instinct to try to figure out how you measure up to the world. Especially when you're a teen, it's almost like you've been given a brand new body, so you gotta figure out all over again who you're bigger than, and who to avoid ticking off! :-)





    Most guys outgrow this (okay, mostly outgrow this) by middle age, but the ones that don't are really loud and obnoxious about it. As the girlfriend, you can make any guy feel good by dropping a compliment here or there. If a guy gets a few things like that from time to time (in private), he's much less likely to get competitive than if he feels he has 'something to prove.'





    I would go with personality and sense of humor every time. The rest of it can either be faked, or changes over time. But someone who can laugh in a tough situation is like gold!Why are guys so preoccupied with size and mesuring up to others?
    Not all guys are that competitive, however from the time we are young in our formative years there


    is pressure put on boys to be the biggest, fastest , richest, strongest, smartest etc.


    What I looked for and found in a woman was reality, I hate plastic.
    For the same reason that females always are preoccupied with measuring their busts, and wondering how big they'll get when they're older.

    How come guys arent attracted to big girls?

    I don't understand whats the deal with guys not liking big girls if they have a pretty face and great personality? I mean I see tons of hot guys and average Joe's with thin girls (yeah they have nice bodies) but their face looks like road kill!!!! whats up with that?How come guys arent attracted to big girls?
    because thin is in and guys have a public image to keep as well.


    most guys dont want to be seen with a big bloated hagHow come guys arent attracted to big girls?
    i know plenty of big girls who are in rltps.
    Hmm.. I like big girls.
    I like my women to have a little meat to her but I hate ';big'; girls they just look unhealthy and I am not attrated to them sexully so they may have great personalties but the most they will ever be is a friend.
    It's different when you get out of highschool.
    Some men do. You just have to carry yourself with confidence. If you are not confident it shows.





    If you are by it, try Club Bounce. Or try to find BBW clubs. They have them all around.
    I'm guessing that you're still in high school.....after high school, things are different. It's about the character.
    Probably the wrong section, considering most gay guys aren't attracted to thin hot girls lol. First we would have a hard time being with a thin girl so I dont think we would like it anymore as they get bigger.
    I don't think it matters. Big girls can be every bit as pretty or prettier than skinny girls.





    Morbidly obese can be an issue, as it affects your health and everyday life and can affect a normal relationship.





    But a few extra pounds is nothing, and I'd rather feel a soft warm body against me than ribs stabbing me.
    black men are, they will tap anything.
    I much prefer a woman who has some cushion and softness to her. To me, that looks sexy. It's only my opinion, of course, but skinnier girls don't appeal as much to me. I guess in my mind they look more ';male'; than I like.





    *shrugs*





    But in direct answer to your question, societal constructs of beauty have evolved (and not necessarily in a good way). As recently as the early 1960's, the ideal of beauty (as personified by sex symbols such as Marilyn Monroe) was much bigger, much bustier and much more curvy that today. Take that back a hundred years, and I think you'll find that beauty standards were even more tied to biology, and a heavier woman would be more likely to be able to carry a child to term and give birth.





    Anyway, I think our modern definition of beauty is a little silly, as you can tell.





    On the other hand, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I can't really explain it, but I sure know what I like.
    the big girls will crush you when your having your special time!
    he is just not attracted to the big blubber
    big? Like fat? why should a guy ( who is genetically programmed to mate with haeathy samples of the populace) want to mate with someone who will have diabetes and heart disease and several forms of cancer and furthermore pass the bad health habits down to his children and mess up their health too?.
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  • Guys: What does it mean when u look or stare at girls?

    Is it becuase your attracted to them or what? I'm just a bit curious to how u guys deal with this. So, plz, no rude answers.Guys: What does it mean when u look or stare at girls?
    Staring is definitely a sign that they are attracted. But they are attracted to A LOT of girls. Staring is your cue to make yourself stand out against all the other girls.Guys: What does it mean when u look or stare at girls?
    ?
    sometimes im just staring into space, sometimes im checking out a girl





    but both times ill look away if someone looks up at me
    guys just stare.......


    they don't get attracted.....
    they're attracted to ya! :-)
    well, im not trying to be rude, but its either;


    i like them


    theyre really pretty


    they have something on their face


    or im just zoned out
    guys look at good looking girls like art... the same with nice cars... we just stare. yes, we may be looking and thinking ';that's nice'; but it doesn't mean we want to leave the girl we're with. not to say it doesn't mean we wouldn't like a test drive, but we still want to admire the engine and imagine what it'd be like to be behind the wheel. if you get my analogy...
    he is probably undressing you or sizing you up sorry that sounds rude but its life


    don't be alarmed it happens more than you think
    its not really a sexual attraction, more of a love at first site type a thing

    How Do you deal with earthquakes? (californians plz answer!)?

    I have never felt an earthquake, and if i live where i do now forever (east coast chick =) chances are i never will. i was considering to move somewhere on the west coast someday, but im terrified of the earthquakes and that will always stop me. the most i know about earthquakes in CA is by watching full house;; anyways... how do you guys deal and prepare? ae there warnings on tv?How Do you deal with earthquakes? (californians plz answer!)?
    I lived in Ca for 18 years and have experienced a several earthquakes. No, we do not have any wornings. The best thing you can do is simply know what to do when you feel one, find a place to hide in a door way or another place that is strong. (In case the building falls) I have never been hurt or had any really bad after math other then a few broken glasses or such.


    Get over your fear any go to Cali! I miss it so much being on the east coast nowHow Do you deal with earthquakes? (californians plz answer!)?
    There is no way to predict earthquakes. Therefore, there are no warnings on TV.





    In the 9 years I have lived in LA, there have been a few trembles but nothing so serious that anything was ever knocked off a shelf or anything. If you are driving during one, you never even notice it.





    However, to prepare, we are told to keep three days supply of food and water on hand. So I have four one gallon jugs of water and a crate with a dozen MREs in it (military field rations).





    As for being worried, here in greater LA, we have more people die in traffic accidents in a month than have ever died here from earthquakes in the last 100 years.
    There are ways to prepare for a quake:


    * Fasten shelves securely to walls, and place heavy objects on lower shelves.


    * Store breakable items in low, closed cabinets.


    * Hang items such as pictures and mirrors away from beds and anywhere people sit.


    * Brace hanging light fixtures.


    * Repair known defective electrical wiring and gas connections.


    * Strap your water heater to studs in the wall and bolt it to the floor.


    * Repair any large existing cracks in walls or foundations.


    * Store poisons such as pesticides and herbicides, as well as flammable liquids, on bottoms shelves of latched cabinets.


    * Identify safe places in each room (under sturdy furniture, against inside walls, away from glass).


    * Locate safe places outdoors (away from buildings, trees, electrical lines, and bridges).


    * Teach family members how to turn off gas, electricity, and water.


    * Teach children how to dial 911 in an emergency.


    * Have disaster supplies on hand (flashlight and extra batteries, battery operated radio, fist aid kit with manual, emergency food and drinking water, non electric can opener, cash, sturdy shoes).


    * Develop an emergency communications plan in case family members are separated.





    And after the quake:


    * Be prepared for aftershocks. They may cause additional damage for hours to months after the main shock.


    * Help injured or trapped persons within the limits of your abilities.


    * Listen to a battery operated radio or television for emergency information.


    * Check on the elderly and disabled, or children who may need special help.


    * Stay out of damaged buildings!


    * Use the telephone only for emergency calls.


    * Clean up spilled materials.


    * Open cabinet and closet doors cautiously.


    * Inspect chimneys for damage, and be extremely careful when lighting fires in fireplaces. Chimney damage may lead to fires.


    * Check utilities for damage. If you smell gas, turn off the gas and do not use electrical devices (including telephones). Stay away from broken electrical wires, and turn off the main fuse box or circuit breaker. If water pipes are damaged, do not use the toilet and avoid tap water for drinking. Use your emergency supply, and melt ice cubes for additional water.

    How to deal with guys who get the wrong impression?

    for instance, a girl is single but is known by everyone to be this guy's girl. he thinks the girl likes him too because the girl hangs out with him like a couple thing. even though they are told that they are getting the WRONG impression, they still think that the girl is denying. how do you deal with a guy who thinks he is always right even though they are already getting the wrong impression???How to deal with guys who get the wrong impression?
    well why not that u got him wrong... maybe that person just love to be close to u like to share thoughts or like to be his bestfriend or something like this.. maybe he knows and so he just wanted to be the same person with his acts with u like if u don't want to love him then u might be his bestfriendHow to deal with guys who get the wrong impression?
    Don't deal with him anymore.
    tell them straight up that they have the wrong impreeion and set them straight.
    Well I think that he has already had sex with you...In his mind.
    Tell him that's not how it is.


    And tell everyone else who care's to listen that you're not together.


    But if you're sleeping together that would be hard to convince people that you're not a couple, so definitely don't sleep with him if you don't love him.

    How did you deal with this distressing situation?

    in the past people have been racist to me but at that time i was too young to understand how to deal with it, recently my friend got racially abused and she did the worst thing possible she went up to the racist bully and beat him up ( yeah she is one gutsy girl) but after that she didnt get justice instead she was named a bully and people started to hate her including the teachers. People deal with racism in different ways but what is the best way ?surely beating people up isnt, but then agian you can just ignore it how can you? it is very easy to get mad and sometimes when you are mad you just cant control your feelings especially when you are so passionate about your own culture (like my friend who beat up the bully, but obcourse this was not a good way to deal with it) how do you guys deal with this situation, have any of you every been in this situation before? what is the best way?, i am sorry if i have offended anyone i understand this is a very sensitive subject.How did you deal with this distressing situation?
    Hi,





    Please always bear in your mind that no culture or race is superior to the other. Otherwise, you fall into the same mistake racist do.





    Love your culture, be proud but don't overdue it. Always have an objective open mind towards people who has different culture than yours. That will help you to understand other people better.





    Secondly, learn your culture very well and tell the others about it so they have an opinion about it, too.





    Please don't forget that people are afraid of the unknown and a person- or an animal as a matter of fact- attacks when scared. Inform them and listen when they tell you about themselves :)





    I wish you the best.How did you deal with this distressing situation?
    I normally don't get that upset about it. I tell my friends what happened, and we simply have a laugh, because anybody who is racist is low-educated and immature...that's my opinion. :-)

    This is more of Survey/Questionnaire: How do you guys deal with your pre-race apprehensions?

    I tend to get really nervous before my XC meets and Track events. I often start pacing A LOT before my event comes up and I think this is probably counter-productive because It burns up energy. I usually warm-up too much as well, because I can't stand sitting around.... it kills me! A lot of people on my team listen to music and they seem totally chilled out, even when we are starting in 10 minutes! I find I can't just sit around like that. Any comments? What do you do to keep off the pre-race jitters?This is more of Survey/Questionnaire: How do you guys deal with your pre-race apprehensions?
    I use to imagine me winning the race while waiting whether I had a chance or not. It allowed me to get psyched up and it usually caused me to perform better in a race because I envisioned winning in my mind.This is more of Survey/Questionnaire: How do you guys deal with your pre-race apprehensions?
    Once a guy told Muhammed Ali that he would get really nervous before a match, but he kept saying to himself, i am Muhammed Ali,i am Muhammed Ali to make himself get over his apprehension. And Ali responded with, you know what i do the same thing. Learn how to channel that nervous energy. Hero,s and cowards feel the same way,but it is what you do that makes you a hero and what you don,t do that makes you a coward. Good Luck Friend.
    I do that too. I'm so restless. And when I'm not restless, my friends are. Especially before my freshman races. Because I know my coach expected me to do so well since I run varsity. I was so nervous, I wanted to rip my hair out. I usually lean against something and take a couple deep breaths. Or close my eyes and try to relax. Talking to the people who's running the same race also helps me relax too.
    Adrenaline is good. Keep it under control by doing some deep breathing and visualizing yourself succeeding.

    How do I deal with guys have crushes on me?

    I don't know how to deal with them...then it gets all weird. I tend to literally run the other direction or run away when I see them coming or walking my direction. Some are just plain creeps, so I guess running away is okay. I don't know what to do! I don't speak to them unless they speak to me, cause I'm scared if I do speak to them, they might think I like them back when I really don't. Usually in the end, everything gets weirder and then we end up not speaking which is totally fine by me cause I'm not friends with them (they're just acquaintances). I get all panicky every time something like this happens, and maybe they think I'm stuck up cause I avoid them...How do I deal with guys have crushes on me?
    Guys how have crushes, you can't be friends with them. They will always be trying ot geat a date or be your BF.





    You can be honest and nice without being mean. Tell them they have no chance.





    If they are being a pest, don't be afraid to get mean. They don't care they are making you feel weird. Don't worry about making them cry. Just tell them leave you alone.How do I deal with guys have crushes on me?
    well do u have a boy right now if u do say sorry i have a bf
    until they start to stalk you...just be glorified with the fact that u have admirers...
    well if you notice it why dont you just tell them you dont feel the same?
    that happens to me too, just ignore the fact that they like you and do what you normally would. If they get the idea that you like them who cares..it's not like it'll change anything though if they ask you out or bring it up just set 'em straight. Dont let this make you fret seriously its not that big of a deal if you handle it like its not.
    just be honest with them and tell them you're not interested in them a boyfriends. Who cares what they think, if they think you're acting stuck up. you are entitled to act any way you like.
    If they're not bothering you, don't bother them. Just enjoy the fact that you're so cool.
    If a guy has a crush on you, %26amp; you don't feel the same way about him as he does you, then it's HIS problem, not yours.





    So I am wondering why you seem to be making it such a problem for you, instead of just going about your own business?





    As long as you treat these guys like a reasonable human being should, with respect. Then I don't see how someone having a crush on you can be such a problem.





    Count your blessings, it sounds like you are popular. :-)
    tell it to them straight.





    next time they try to talk to you, tell them you're tired of being bothered and you do not like them and you never will. it may sound a little rude, but it will intimidate them and they will be afraid of talking to you again.
    Have sex with them. Then they will avoid you.
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  • How do you deal with racism? Or are you racist?

    It saddens me to hear all these racist remarks on the different races. Sometimes they are targeted at me. I'm a Singaporean Chinese but people seem to think that I'm from China...how do you guys deal with racism? I find it utterly ludicrous, a waste of time, and it makes the world go 'down'.How do you deal with racism? Or are you racist?
    If you want to see racism at it's worst, take a look at the cricket section in Sports. Every question has a racist undertone to it.





    I used to report the racist questions %26amp; answers, but now, I've given up as the Y!A mods don't seem to care much about what goes on in that section.How do you deal with racism? Or are you racist?
    The sad truth is that it will never go away, unless people are motivated to. However, that is also unlikely to happen.





    I agree with you. The only advice I can give you is to educate. People probably don't have a clue what the difference is from singaporean chinese to just 'chinese'. So give them the benefit of the doubt. Asians are generally pretty similar, especially to Caucasians.
    Racism is pervasive in America. I have to say, that if you are a minority in the US then you need some type of tenacity to deal with it. At one time, a few decades ago, you would travel from the north to the south knowing that you are going to deal with some extreme racism. Now if you lived in the south for at least 5-10 years and decide to move north, the mason-dixon line is the catalyst in which takes you from a ';tolerable prejudiced'; in the south where you can work no matter what color you are as long as you are qualified and not lazy, to ';hatred'; in the North...where if you smile the entire interview and are overqualified with your credentials, and if you are a non-threatning woman...and Affirmative Action have been on the company's back, you MIGHT be considered an offer of minimum wage with an option to be called N****R for the first time in your life! Yes you had to move from the south to the north to experience it! So I say be careful because you do not want to develop a ';chip on your shoulder'; or ';axe to grind'; or ';they're BAD NEWS'; stamp! It is just best to do you, educate yourself, and make your own paper and laugh at them...I reported a little over quarter million revenue with about 180k of that being profits...sooooooo you get the picture! Do You!
    i get racist remarks too, but its not really your typical kind of racism. im 3/4 japanese 1/4 caucasian, but i get told by alot of chinese/people from chinese colonies that i dont have the right to call myself japanese because im 'contaminated with western blood'. i was born and raised in japan and i only know my japanese family, yet because of my western blood im stripped of being able to identify myself with my culture. the thing is, these people are only saying these things because they are jealous of japanese culture and im an easy target. i came to new zealand to study, and i suffered a year and a half of these awful comments, like 'you dont even look japanese', 'people like you are the real japanese-wannabes'.





    i agree. just when we think that we've made some huge progress by electing a black president, we need to solve the smaller issues of racism in everyday life.
    No, I am not racist. But, sometimes there's nothing you can do but, ignore them. So just ignore them they are immature anyways if they are making racist comments. I have to admit there are still alot of racist people out there. But, like I said all we can do is ignore them.
    I try to ignore it, its a sh*ty solution but sadly everyone is entitled to their own opinions.. as bias, racist or sexist as they may be.


    I am personally not racist in the slightest. I think its pathetic that some people will only see people for the color of their skin, or what culture they come from and not for the human being they are. What difference does it make if someones purple, blue, yellow, white, black or tan?
    I'm white so Ive never really had a problem with being the target of racism. I'm not racist myself I especially have no problem with Chinese or Singaporeans but I must admit I do have some prejudice towards the more violent ethnic groups in my area
    Ignore it.





    Racists are ignorant, close-minded jerks.
    i threat people the same no matter where they are from or their colour, if they are rude or abusive i avoid them, if they are warm and welcoming i greet them
    I ignore it.

    How do you guys deal with mean people?

    I never know how to react. You can't change people, so what do you do? Just stare at them? I swear, sometimes I have nothing to say to them because I don't see the point of a conversation that won't go anywhere. I want to live a life of integrity %26amp; PEACE, so 'defending myself' all the time isn't my cup of tea (because I don't care if they agree with my opinion or not... everyone thinks differently), yet I feel like I soak up other people's negative energy and I don't enjoy being around them. I feel like it's a waste of my time. I'd rather go for a walk than listen to people complain, judge, yell and be miserable.





    I've been trying to figure this out for some time now. .... should I just cut out ALL mean / negative / bitter / toxic people out of my life??? lol Any wise %26amp; peaceful people out there with advice?? :D





    Thank you in advance!!!How do you guys deal with mean people?
    Cut them out of the details of your life. Be polite, but own your own life and your own schedule. Being polite and a little bit aloof keeps them from geting under your skin.How do you guys deal with mean people?
    Remember that you have no power over people, place or things.


    You only have power over your responce to them.


    Try praying for tham and remain at peace.
    Well yeah i mean there is no point being around people that bring you down etc and who are rude ,tell them to feck off and move on to better people
    I completely ignore/blank them and walk away. i hate confrontation and when i was younger i used to fight back but it only used to encourage them to say worse things!!
    just ignore the madness their in and get on their good side, and always agree with them.
    Wow You Sound Just Like Me!


    Mean People Suck... And Your Right, Whats The Point Of Starting An Argument? They Would Understand Anyway, I Would Love To Know What Goes Through There Mind. Be Proud That You Are Above Them, My Advice Is Look At Them And Simply Laugh To Yourself And How Much Better And Happier You Are. :)
    I completely know what you're talking about and for years I tight-rope walked around everyone else so I wouldn't offend anyone and did the right thing when they could care 2 hoots about me.





    The day I started not caring (not about them but about their issues with me) my life started talking on new meaning.





    I have some of the most toxic and miserable family known to man. Even other people say so and then say ';no offense';. And honestly there's none taken.





    You can always be civil but just dettach yourself from their energy-sucking ways. Just don't be available anymore.....go for a nice life-long stroll....you'll love it !



    Well I have to say, from experience, that I use to be a peppy, happy, positive person 24/7. If someone was negative around me, it was ME that would cheer them up. Now I've noticed after being around so many crazy negative people, that I am soaking up their negativity also, and I see myself slowing turning into that. I hate it when you walk by and say ';hi, how are you'; and people look at you like you are stupid. It seems like you have to be rude and mean to get anything out of this world. Ha. I have slowly started distancing myself away from those negative people in my life... as much as I don't want to... it is helping me get myself back to how I use to be. I'm not in this whole ';self-absorbed, bring everybody down'; world anymore. Be careful, because its contagious and misery loves company.
    Be around them only when necessary. Don't give them any access to your internal world. When you are around them, adapt as best you can to their emotional disturbance and plan your escape as fast as possible. Have a way to decompress afterward.
    People might be more information to answer this question. You will have to respond differently depending on the type of relationship you have with the person. Is it your boss? It is your mother? Is it strangers on the bus?


    Without any specific information, I can tell you that you have half of the battle beat just by not needing to defend yourself.


    Other than that, there is a great book called ';Boundaries'; that may help you out. Good boundaries are the key to most relationships. Let them own what's there's.


    Sounds like you're on a good track with a good perspective.
    exactly, life is too short to be miserable, so just go your own way and ignore all the mean and hate full people. i think when we reach maturity, we don't let what other people think influence us and we don't' surround ourselves with negative poeple.

    I just broke up with my brother and I'm heartbroken... how do u guys deal w/ heartbreak? I want to die!?

    You are really milking this thing to death. try a different joke.I just broke up with my brother and I'm heartbroken... how do u guys deal w/ heartbreak? I want to die!?
    did you went steady with your brother?I just broke up with my brother and I'm heartbroken... how do u guys deal w/ heartbreak? I want to die!?
    why did you break up with your brother?
    you from kentucky??? you shouldn't be dating yoru brother in the first place. i suggest some serious counseling to start off with !!
    Okay - first of all, dating your brother is wrong - and gross! Ur kids would be major retards. Find somebody you're NOT related to!
    call Jerry Springer...cause this is weird...but hey everything happens for a reason, it was meant to be
    Angelina, is that you?!
    If your dating your brother you got issues girl... Especially if your parents allow that.. but heck while your on a roll try a cousin or even anouther brother... GET OVER IT AND FIND A BETTER GUY THAT TREATS YOU THE WAY YOU WANA BE TREATED !!!!!!!!!!!!!
    First of all, you should not be dating your own brother. You are your parent's kids... If you want to find a better guy, im me.
    u get up and start living coz life is too short and its better to hve loved and lost than never have loved at all like me
    Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,


    communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so


    far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with


    your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what


    you want and expect from the others.





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    How do you brake up with your brother? As the saying goes...you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. Disagreements happen but usually time will heal things. Take some time apart. If your brother is hard headed you may have to make the first move for reconciliation. If there is something darker happening here I suggest you get professional help.
    Ask your mother how she broke up with her brother, thats probably the best advice
    wow, finally broken.........





    but didn't u r going to married him??/


    yo, u r really fast changing your mind?

    How would you guys deal with a boss like mine?




    ok, my boss has a bad temper and shes kinda of double faced when it comes to her talking to you. what i mean is that somedays she comes treating you super good and then the next day she comes in treating you like crap and screaming. well the first 2 times she came up to me screaming and everything, i let i go because we are all humans and we tend to get pissed off every now and then, but she has been like that with everyone and earlier this week she came screaming at me and talking really bad, so i exploded back and we got into a fight. so w.e the next day im more calm down and i decided i was going to tell her that im not comfortable with the way she adressed the situation and how she talked to me wasnt right. so before i left work yesterday i asked her if i could get a word with her, so i told her and as soon as i told her that as a person i wasnt satisfied with the way she talked to me, she burst back saying that she isnt satisfied with the way i work, that i am very dishonest worker and etc, etc. She turned the whole purpose of me talking to her around and started addressing her issues that she has about me, and she missed the whole point of the conversation. I really dislike my boss, i have since i have seen the way she treats people, and im pretty sure today shes going to be coming in all nice and smiling like a fake smile that i cant stand. should i pretend as well or just be honest as i am and not acknowledge her presence? (btw i dont want to get fired but i plan on leaving as soon as i have enough money saved up to go look for a new job)How would you guys deal with a boss like mine?
    You are not at work to socialize, or worry about personalities, just do your work and use the money to pay your bills. It gets me how women are always into that sort of thing at a job, and sometimes actually quit the job for such a reason; it's ridiculous.How would you guys deal with a boss like mine?
    Your boss sounds like she is bi-polar. Get a new job or tell her to see a doctor and get on some meds.
    report her. You can't legally be fired for filing a report.
    So thats what you say about me! Your FIRED!


    lol jk ya just look for a new job that you enjoy;)
    ill ignore her..
    Start looking for a new job right away, be professional and courteous. She is a jerk, get out of there as soon as you can.
    Does she have a superior you can go to? You tried speaking to her but that obviously did not go well so maybe going to a higher up is in order. You should not be talked to like that. Just make sure her accusations about you are unfounded or she could use them to get rid of you!
    Start looking for another job now, don't wait until you have enough money saved. I agree it isn't good for her to treat people like she has treated you but there may be issues with the way you do your job as well. Maybe you should try to improve your job performance too. It takes two to make an argument. The bottom line is if you aren't happy with your job you should try to find one that makes you happy. Working is something we have to do and there is no reason to do it and be miserable.
    My advice is don't save up money to look for a new job. Start looking now. Start with Craigslist. Also go to Monster.com and create a profile for yourself. If you don't have a resume, you'll need to create one. There are a lot of resume templates you can download for free off the internet, or you can use the online template provided for free by Monster.com





    Yahoo also has a site called HotJobs which is a pretty good resource for finding a job in your area.





    Don't wait, start looking now!
    boss is like that , if u cannot stand go and find another job, give her a lesson , she is not the only 1 boss here in this world
    Everywhere is samething and all bosses are pretty much assholes and thats why they are MANAGERS! Well, talk to her when U need to otherwise just ignore her and thats what I do at my work. I sit here and relax but it doesnt mean that users are complaining about me coz I am in IT. So, just show that you are working very very hard. Yes, you can find another job but its gonna be same story there too.
    There's nothing stopping you from looking for work while you are employed, you cannot get fired for that.





    As for your boss, calmly schedule a meeting with her so that you can ask her what her expectations of you are, and what you can do to preform better in the work place, because you are truly dedicated to you work and want to do your best for the company.


    Then whatever her suggestions are, do them as long as they are within reason.





    If she doesn't address the issue in a business like manner, take it up with her superior.





    You're boss doesn't have to like you, and you don't have to like her. Working, sadly, is not about making friends and being liked, it's about getting the job done.





    If she doesn't have a superior, then at least you can say that you really did try to please her, and can move on with a guilt free conscience.





    Start looking for employment else where a.s.a.p. And remember, everyone has had the boss from hell. It's not forever.
    I would call the HR department and report the abuse that she is giving you, if they says they can't doing nothing then start looking for a new job. But, she says anything discriminatory about you report that too.
    Always be calm and courteous with her. Even if it's a fake smile act like it's a real smile. Then when she yells or acts badly stay really calm and tell her you can't communicate with her when she's like that and that you'll gladly listen to what she has to say when she can speak to you respectfully. Use the word RESPECT as much as possible. Then disengage, go take a walk if you have to. When the storm blows over go to her and bring up the issue she was yelling about, it was probably over nothing but make a point of checking in: ';so, you had a problem with the way I hung up my coat this morning. would you like to go over the correct way to do it?'; The key is to always remain calm calm calm. Part of what she does is to get people in the office whipped up, so don't let her manipulate you. You will be amazed at how powerful it is to just stop playing her game and to set boundaries for how you will be treated.





    In a way you need to treat her like a 3 year old having a tantrum. You don't get mad, you don't comfort, you just don't respond and stay above it. And that makes sense because it sounds like she has the emotional capacity of a 3 year old.





    Now I can't guarantee that she won't fire you, but maybe you'd be better off! Good luck.

    How did u guys deal with ear infections?

    its my sons first


    hes five months


    he went to the doctor and got medicine


    his fever seems to be staying at 100


    since 3 yesterday


    hes SO fussy


    i use saline drops for the runny nose and suction it hes getting Tylenol for his fever and medicine for his ear and hes teething


    running a vaporizer to and hes got horrible cough


    we just got back from the doctors btw


    im also giving him pedialyte in his bottle to keep hydrated


    ne thing else i should do for him nd to keep me saneHow did u guys deal with ear infections?
    Nope. Seems like you got everything down. It really sucks when they are so uncomfortable and you are doing all you can. It just takes a lot of hugs and cuddles!How did u guys deal with ear infections?
    Just keep doing what you're doing. And give a lot of love and snuggling is all you really can do for them.
    Accept you will have a sleepless night and spend alot of time with your baby.
    that's pretty much all you can do. the antiboitics should work after 24-48 hours.





    my son's ear infection didnt go away after i used the antibiotics, so be sure to take him once the prescription is fully used to ensure the ear infection is gone.
    My grandma always fills up a sock with rice and then puts it in the microwave with a cup of water so the microwave doesnt get over heated. She usually puts it in for a minute but your baby might do well with 30 seconds. The eat sooths the pain away. Also. do you know if it is swimmers ear? it could be because of to much water in his ears so dont give him baths for a whil and make sure his bottle is always pointed up and have his head proped up so the milk doesnt go back to his ears.
    You could try a heating pad set on low and with a cover on it... this helped my girls .good luck hope he feels better real soon...

    WHAT is this guys deal with me?

    --we have been on and off for a year


    --once he was a huge *** whole to me but since then has apologized and now is much more careful in how he treats me


    --but he still only texts/IMs/calls me late at night (even when he is far away and wont be seeing me any time soon)


    --he was ';hurt'; when i decided to cut him out of my life


    --he is a genteman at bare minimum (will walk me home if its late at night but wont pick me up on the way to going out)


    --he has only done sexual things for me but i haven't done anything for him yet he is still persuing me


    --once when my friend told him i was mad at him he called me like 3 times because he was really upset that i was mad at him


    --has walked me home even when we werent h/u and he didnt expect anything


    --doesnt pressure me to do anything sexual for him and is very interested in pleasing me


    --doenst want to sleep in the same bed after hooking up so he sleeps on the couch


    --i have tried to cut him out of my life but he gets really upset by that


    --i cant get over him


    --we do have a very unusual chemistry, i cant explain it but h/u with him is SO MUCH BETTER and more intimate than with anyone else...WHAT is this guys deal with me?
    He sounds bi-polar or doesn't know what he wants with you! SOunds like he wants to be with you but doesn't wanna be with you at the same time. He probably has someone else on tha side but still wants to please you! I would just drop him bc its making you bounce on and off with him, its frustrating you and probably everyone around you. I would go find another guy who would make u feel less stressed out!WHAT is this guys deal with me?
    maybe he's in love with you
    you just need to leave him alone..
    Well. It sounds like he likes you. Just doesn't know how to show it. Or what to do.
    u guys seem to like eachother but u dont want to admit it u have ur problems like every other couple and cant get over each other so he really likes u
    it seems like he likes u but every once in a while he gets confused about how he feels gets scared or doesnt know how to show his feelings and lashes out. but he doesnt want you out of his life. u should try and talk about it with him asking why he acts like this all the time. this is very confusing and im sorry that you have to deal with his sudden changes in mood or beliefs but im happy that you found someone that u care about and he feels the same way. all u can do is talk. im at this stage right now myself and it sux but weve talked about it and its getting better.
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  • How do you guys deal with a frustrating mother in law?

    My in-laws stayed over the weekend with my husband and I. I thought things went fine but today at work I got a call from my mother in law this morning wanting to talk. Thinking she wanted to thank me for a pleasant stay I took the call. She went on to give me a list of things I had done to upset her son and how it breaks her heart to see the way I talk to her son (my husband). Her list included:


    1. He whispered something naughty in my ear while we (his parents and us) were out having a drink at a restaurant. I turned around and told him, ';That's rude'; before turning back to the conversation! I honestly thought that was not the time and place and I didn't mean for his parents to overhear, but they did and now they are upset because they saw the look of hurt on his son's face.


    She gave me a list of 2 other incidents...all just as meaningless. She also said I came accross as very ';bitchy'; and she did not appreciate how I treated her son. I am at a loss...how should I respond?How do you guys deal with a frustrating mother in law?
    Well my mother-in-law is just as *ahem* ';special'; in her thinking, so I don't bother with rational conversation or confrontation.





    I would just say how nice of her to call, I value the way she cares about my husband, reassure her I also care very much, then say I've got to run and we must catch up soon.





    If she ever tries to continue, I just pass the phone to my husband and let him deal with it.How do you guys deal with a frustrating mother in law?
    I have confronted mine and my wife confronted my mom. That is the best way.
    Toss her off a balcony, lol. Seriously tell her to kindly shut up and mind her own damn business.
    Hmm. I personally think you should let her know why you made that comment. You didn't mean to hurt his feelings. And it's true, i don't think thats an appropriate time to be talking naughty. So let her know that you didn't mean to and that it was just a misunderstanding, if she doesn't seem to lighten up then she has problems.
    tell her to mind her own buisness. That this is you're marriage. If you're husband is upset with you he can talk to you about it. You don't need her putting you down. You are a adult.





    I have had the same problem with my Mother-in-law. I put down some ground rules of how I was going to be treated and things are going smoothly.
    I'd say something like this and then i probably wouldn't say, it, but here goes. I guess he's married to me and not you and we'll just have to deal with it on our own. What i think is she has no business telling you anything, it is your business and its your life and as long as your husband doesn't complain you don't owe her a thing. But then you can say, Oh, i'll be sure to work on that. Then pray they never come again and stay. Anyway, good luck.
    ';Thank you Mom, Your comments explain alot about his shortcomings in the bedroom.'; Repeat his crude remarks to her as evidence....and next time, have lots of Jack and coke.
    Ignore her as much as possible. I have the same problem and no matter how nice I try to be to my mother in law, she always ends up thinking I've ruined her son's life. At least yours talks to you about it- mine goes behind my back and tells my husband she thinks I'm being controlling.





    Your husband is more yours than hers now (although you might not want to put it that way to her). He's an adult and he chose to leave his parents and marry you. If there was a real problem between you and your husband, it would be up to him to deal with it, not his mother.





    She's the one with the issues here, not you. She may never change, so you might just have to learn to live with it. But hopefully your marriage is completely worth having to deal with little problems along the way. Hang in there- you're definitely not the only woman with a problem mother-in-law.
    Tell her that since her son CHOSE to marry you that she needs to take all of this up with him.
    Thank her for her comments. Ignore them.





    Keep your cool. You do not want to lose control of this situation.


    Keep your contact with your MIL as brief as possible. Let your husband know what she said. Tell him you do not feel comfortable having her stay with you, so if they want to visit, they should make hotel accomodations.





    That way, YOU are in control of how much, when and where you want to be exposed to the old bag.

    What is this guys deal ?

    i am confused. i just got out of a marriage and this guy did a 3 yr dating r.ship. i have know him over 10 yrs and we have dated n been friends in the past. we reconnected over a month ago and on the start he said he wasnt ready to date anyone right now since he just left that other r,ship. we have hung out and watched movies, we talk almost everyday and he is definitely into me and we kiss and some physical stuff. my bday was yesterday and his is today so i went over for mine. on the start we had a joke bout some lingerie that i had and he wanted me to take some pics of me in it wearing it so i did. he said i needed to come model it for him sometime. he kinda made references to my bday and his and the physical part of it so i assumed he wanted us to go all the way, even though i had told him i wanted a relationship before that instead of friends with benefits. he agreed totally. so i got a gift bag and put the lingerie in it for him as his bday gift and wrote on the card that when he wanted me to model it for him just let me know. so he wanted me to right then. i put it on and we kiss n things progressed til he asked what i wanted him to do for me on my bday and i asked him also. it ended with us both saying we wanted to do ';everything';. but, as we layed there he had to throw in that he still didnt want a r.ship or to date anyone cuz he had already told me that a month ago. i was kinda shocked cuz he acted totally into me like it was going somewhere the past month. so i asked if he ever wanted anything with me and if he knew he didnt wanna date eventually then he shouldve told me that already and not drag me along. i could be dating someone else, but he said he was into me or else he wouldnt have me over ever and that is how all his r.ships start out- with him saying that and friends first then eventually hang out til it get more serious. what should i do in this situation ?? still see him since we are into each other and give it time ??? we do have a long history together. but what do you think he did this for ??What is this guys deal ?
    Simply put, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?





    Men aren't that complicated.

    How do conservative guys deal with their girlfriend's past?

    So I told my girlfriend NOT to tell me anything about her past, but she still had some urge to let it out. I was raised in a conservative household and I knew how I would react. I didnt need to know any of her sexual past unless it meant we needed to get blood tests. Basically she had a one night fling where the guy broke her hymen fingering her, and she jerked him off throughout the night (TOO MUCH INFO!). I have lost a lot of respect for her, and she kind of disgusts me to a certain extent. I have been trying to get over it, but I cant (been two months). I simply find myself fixated on the fact that it was a one night stand. My parents asked if my girlfriend was a ';good girl'; but i cant get the word ';whore' out of my head. I didnt know about this because she always feigned to be miss innocence.How do conservative guys deal with their girlfriend's past?
    You my friend are a jerk. get over yourself. Either you love this chick and want to be with her or you don't. But for god's sake don't bring her down with you. She thought enough of you to tell you something that personal, now be man enough to tell her you ';can't handle the truth.';


    Whuss!How do conservative guys deal with their girlfriend's past?
    Well, I come from a pretty conservative family, myself, and i have sort of dealt with tackling the ';past'; of a girl I was dating. It is definitely not good that she have lost respect for her, that you think of her as a sort of whore, and what not. That's obviously not good. All I can tell you is that you need to come to grips with whether or not you can handle her past. If you can't, save yourself both the time, and move on. If you can, you need to make an agreement with yourself to not hold her past against her. It's YOUR choice, whether or not you can live with it or not. And, when you make your decision, you have no right to hold it against her any more. It really is up to you. If you love the girl, then you may decide that the past is the past, and neither of you can change it. It's just a fact of life. Unfortunately, we live in a world where people sleep around, and where a person having sex before marriage is more of the rule, than the exception. Anyways, the biggest thing is that you need to realize it is up to you, and once you make your decision, you can't hold it against her any longer. You can't change the past, and neither can she, so if you can't handle it, then get out. Best of luck my friend.
    rule of thumb whatever a girl tells you about her sexual past is the LITE Version. so i doubt that her hymen was broken that way. More like she had full blown sex..... and with more than 1 sex partner. In 2009 bro. A Women must PROVE she isn't a slut. She must EARN your respect. Because atleast here in Cali. majority of chicks are Sluts. They put out within the first week of dating. My advice ?? your in the wrong era if you want a ';Good Girl'; they existed in the 40's man. they hardly exist anymore in our days. Either settle for this one or keep looking for your Needle in the Haystack.
    Get rid of her and get someone that does not sleep around, sorry but honestly it just stopping at fingering, nah it had to go further. Just saying stop wasting your time with her and find a real good girl, my suggestion look for a good religious girl cause they are generally good girls.
    If she is not the one then move on and stop wasting her time and yours. If you love her then her past is her past and let it go.

    How do guys deal with the criticizing of dieting?

    Im a guy and I like to be healthy and i love to exercise and watch EVERYTHING i eat but a lot of people call me gay or think im narcissistic for doing so. When ever a teacher offers candy or any sweets to the class i am the only one to refuse because i know how many calories are in those things!! a lot of people eat these days like crazy maniacs. I do only like to eat around 1000 calories a day but i have a plan for that. Honestly when girls do this, it seems so normalHow do guys deal with the criticizing of dieting?
    you know its actually good you count calories! it good you lead a healthy lifestyle!How do guys deal with the criticizing of dieting?
    Dude....are you crazy? A man is supposed to have anywhere from 2,000 to 2,200 calories a day! Even more if you're really active...
    wow- first thing my eyes went to was ';1000 cals a day';





    do you have ANY idea how damaging that is? especially for a male? you should never, ever, EVER go under 1600. you're slowing down your metabolism otherwise. it's 12-1300 for girls and 15-16 for guys. even if you've eaten 1000 and it's mostly protein and you feel full, keep eating. do it with veggies or a few tablespoons of peanut butter or something bc there is good fat in that. but you should never eat that little.
    You are going to deal with judging and others opinions all of your life, get use to it, and tell them it's your bod and kiss off. Do what'; you'; care about, not peers...........screw them!!!..........it's just that simple. Stand up for yourself........and have a nice new year.
    wow!


    how do u manage to only eat 1000 calories a day???
    I don't know what you're worried about, this guy diets and he is so ******* HAWT! Watch this video and exercise, it will help you lose some fat.








    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vhZ2fYQj6鈥?/a>

    How does a scorpio guy deal with a girl telling him off?

    if she puts him in his place lets him know that he acts like a coward and will always be a lil boy in her eyes...does it piss him off? real answers if you have problem with astrology dont bother being negative on here im being serious and really want to know your answers.How does a scorpio guy deal with a girl telling him off?
    hell yeah they get pissed off, in my opinion scorpio guys are th most bitchiest ones out of all of them. they feel hurt and disapointed because their ego's are usually pretty big


    but u did a good thing by putting him in his place, because he will defenitatly use it for some other situation
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  • Holiday blues... how do you guys deal?

    So I'm here with my family ready to celebrate the holiday.. and I'm feeling so blue and down. Part of it is b/c I'm in between jobs/trying to figure out things.. the other is I'm pine-ing for my guy friend back home. I feel like that guy who confesses to Keira Knightley in ';Love Actually';.. [but I'm not gonna do that].





    Any words of comfort or cheer? Thanks.. oh and Merry Xmas/happy holidays to everyone.Holiday blues... how do you guys deal?
    Christmas is one of the most stressful, heartbreaking times of the year. It is set out, and displayed as a wonderful time, but so much pressure is put on everyone to buy gifts, run their time thin, try to be with loved ones.





    Christmas is a good time to stop and think for a minute. Everyone has something to be thankful for... find what that is. Some have more than others... some have things from the past, some the present. Don't look at what you don't have and wish you did... look at what you do have, and be very thankful and proud of it.





    If you are with your family, enjoy that time... don't wish you were with a guy friend somewhere else.





    Time with family is the best gift. You can always get another job and another friend, you can't always get more time with family.





    Merry Christmas... I hope you do enjoy it.Holiday blues... how do you guys deal?
    Merry Christmas! : )
    Words of comfort? At least you have family to be with. I have none. Find a job and get a new guy friend in 2008. Happy Holidays!
    Well,I deal with it by not thinking about it. If you think about being blue,you will get even more depressed. I sometimes get blue after the holidays,which is normal. As long as you have family there with you,there is nothing to get blue about.
    don't worry.. when the snow leaves andsunshine comes back everything wud be ok.
    I actually know someone whos dad is in ICU, fighting for his life to live ...





    Appreciate what you have right now... specially FAMILY... cause I dont have one and it sux to be alone....





    so look at the bright side.. you are lucky to have family.. and family dinner ;)
    you are healty, not everybody is.


    since may 2005 i have had double digit surgeries and my


    last one was nov. 26, 07.


    you have your health, feel blessed.
    merry christmas to you........i get the winter blues too. i try and hide away to be miserable on my own but that's difficult as a family man. i just wish that people could accept not everyone is full of christmas cheer.





    have a good new year.
    So sorry to hear you're down SDG, but that makes sense considering all the unknowns you have right now. And it probably doesn't help being away from the comfort of your own home and daily routine.





    But you are a beautiful, intelligent woman, taking steps to better your lot, putting yourself in position for getting what you want out of life. Those are traits that show others (including him) your irrepressible spirit and strength. You may be in a lull over the holidays, but once you get back home, things will start falling into place and you'll be riding the current toward that bright horizon awaiting you.





    Hang in there for now, and best wishes toward an incredible 2008!!

    Pregnancy veterans, how did you deal with this problem?

    I am getting advice left and right about what I should be doing and how I could stand to be bigger even though I'm 7 months along and have already gained 30 lbs in this pregnancy. I even got advice from a friend's wife who had NEVER been pregnant. How would she know?! How did you guys deal with this annoying problem?Pregnancy veterans, how did you deal with this problem?
    Just smile graciously and thank them for their advice...you don't have to listen to it all...people just like to be ';helpful';...Pregnancy veterans, how did you deal with this problem?
    What I've done is put an earplugs in! If my doctor tell me that I'm doing good and everything looks good, I'd ignore everyone else! 30 lbs so far is good! I've gained 35 lbs and my doctor said it's a healthy weigh for me and the baby.





    GOOD LUCK!
    You just deal cause that is the way it goes you don't have too take it but you will hear it.
    Good for you! Unfortunately I did not have that problem, people asked if I was having twins! I always said ';No, just one big baby.'; And my son was 9lbs. 11oz..
    Don't only listen to your doctor, listen to your body as well. You know when something doesn't feel right. If you feel like there is a problem, there probably is. But as for the weight gain, you said you're 7 months along, right now is when the baby will be picking up his/her weight too, so unless your doctor is worried about the 30 pounds, don't worry about it. And remember, when everyone is throwing advice at you, that opinions are like a..........everyone has one!
    i dont really care what ppl think but i dont think i really had this problem, i am 8 weeks preg with baby #4 (the others are 8 years, 3 years, 7 months) so im usually the one ppl ask thier questions to since most likely i have been through something they are curious about, i dont just go around telling ppl what they should or shouldnt do though cuz only they know what works for them. all i can say is dont believe all you here. i was 17 when i had my oldest and my mother in law insisted that drinking beer made you milk come in better, (a common belief in older women like grandmas) but i later read that its not good at all and the alcohol goes into breast milk. lucky for me and my son it was only 1 beer. so trust me everyone thinks they know best but sometimes its so far from the truth. ig you have a pregnancy book it will help alot
    Every one is going to put there two sense in... as long as your Doctor says every thing is on the up and up, don't listen. I was a little bump when I was pregnant. Everyone told me that I was going to have a little baby if I didn't miscarry. I ended up having an 8lb 8ozs. baby. If it truly bothers you that they throw in their advice, say something like, ';I appreciate the help but my doctor says I am fine and I would not like the extra stress of worrying'; it will take the rudeness out of telling them to shut up. Trust me it works wonders.. Good luck and congrats

    How do u guys deal with this if..?

    u cant get over ur ex?


    i have this problem even though i have a boyfriend who really love me. But somehow i dont trust him, i always secretly comparing him and my ex, and i am scared to be hurt again. it is sooo hurt that i feel numb sometime. i know that my boyfriend love me a lot but i just cant give him all of my heart, i dont wanna get hurt like before.


    What should i do?


    and how do i over come this problem?How do u guys deal with this if..?
    Don't punish your current boyfriend because of the actions of your ex. It is not fair to him. You need to put the past in the past. Being in love is about exposing yourself to the possibility of getting hurt. If you keep holding back, you won't be truly happy. Not just now but with any relationship in the future. Everybody is different and should be treated as such.How do u guys deal with this if..?
    thats the point of a relationship ur ment 2 share ur life with that person, not everyone is gonna be like ur ex bf. and besides the only way you can get hurt is if you let them.
    Sit down with him and tell him how you feel and why you feel this way. and you guys need to decide what can you guys to do to fix it.

    How do you guys deal with a know it all ignorant sister in law that comments on stuff she knows nothing about?

    she has realy irked me, and now.....i have no idea what to do...she has married into the same family i have, so it's like sister in law twice removed....wanna tell her to kiss me where the sun don't shine...kinda already did in an email.....now what? she's a know it all 23 year old (i'm 39).....ready to take it to the next level, but she threw her insults and threats and then dis-connected completely, like a scared lil girl.....do i leave it be, or look her up tomorrow? i am mad as hell....she is talking crap she knows nothing about...i need advice NOW before i hurt someone.....thankfully she is 800 miles away....How do you guys deal with a know it all ignorant sister in law that comments on stuff she knows nothing about?
    You are 39 and she is 23? Why are you letting this ';little girl'; upset you? At your age, you should be more secure and not let things get you as upset as they apparently are. Also, you did not give details as to what it is she is saying or doing that is causing you so much upset. Perhaps with more details, better advice can be received.How do you guys deal with a know it all ignorant sister in law that comments on stuff she knows nothing about?
    Just ignore her. You cant control other people.
    Sounds like she won this round, and letting you simmer for a while seems to be working for her even more.
    if she lives 800 miles away what kind of comments do you have to endure? you are an adult, she is still acting childish so you be the adult
    I'd just ignore her. If what she says really is just a load of crap, then you don't really need to pay attention to her.





    Just give her curt replies and maybe 10% of your attention. She'll stop talking to you eventually.
    She is likely to never go away as this type is like that. You have to learn to listen to her without hearing anything. Nod and smile nod and smile and get thru it.
    well since she is 800 miles away i would try my hardest to ignore her..hey you could be living with yours like me ..i know it is extremely hard at times to bite your tongue but it will be better for all in the long run...and hey 23 ain't such and immature age lol








    what is up with people knocking on 23 year olds
    I think you have every right to be angry with her. Sounds like someone needs to tell her that she needs to think before she speaks. You might want to cool down over night or for a few days and then e-mail her again, or call her up and tell her how you feel. I don't think you should have to back down from the way you are feeling, I just think that sometimes when you wait and have a little bit of time perspectives can alter a bit. Good luck to you! Hey at least she lives 800 miles away!
    Mel?........live well, it's the best revenge....take the high road and act like the better person you most likely are!
    Hate to say it; but looks like she doesn't want to play your games. For a 39yr old you seem to be pretty immature, she is 23 and has decided to be the better person by letting it go. Maybe she does know it all and it seems to bother you. You two are going to be stuck together for the rest of your lives; might as well try to get along. So if I were you I would try to make peace with her and apologize for the way that you are acting. If she's 800 miles away what difference does it make anyway?
    OMG! she sounds just like my sister in-law. i just ignore her. she's just runs her mouth about everything and everyone. i either wait until she is done or I'll just talk over her. your lucky yours is so far away. i envy you. be the better person. let it slide, until the next time you SEE her. then just talk to her. don't yell. it will make you look like the jerk instead of her. good luck.

    What is this guys deal?

    The other day I was sitting in my car and this old arch nemesis of mine walks up to my car and basically says he wants to be friends again. I didnt believe him, and knew he was gonna sucker punch me if he got the chance. So My buddies show up a minute later and I pop my car door open, jump out and he runs back inside his truck and leaves me a note saying how he could have knocked me out when I got back to my car later. What was up with this guy?What is this guys deal?
    give him weird looks





    and tell him to freak offWhat is this guys deal?
    idk but he's a freak.
    sounds like an idiot..who would write a note? ignore ppl like this..and if u have to give him the beating of his life
    not somthing nice
    He a louser and can't move on.


    Next time you see him beat the hell out of him, he sounds like an a** hole.
    Actually, you and the entire bunch sound like real troublemakers. Good luck.
    wow..he's a total weirdo! stay way from him.
    Jealousy! That is a very dangerous emotion to fool with. An over jealous person can harm you. Get a restraining order. Don't fool yourself. This guy needs to learn to let go and he needs to know that you aren't a push over. Get a restraining order please. He needs to know there are consequences for his actions. Right now he thinks he still has control over you.





    Everyone has a little jealousy in them - he's just over jealous.
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  • How do you deal with THE SILENT TREATMENT?

    a very close guy friend(who i was starting to fall for) of mines stoped talking to me completely two weeks ago and i dont know why..he is givin me the silent treatment and its eating me inside! this is someone who is always eager to talk to me.. i've tried getting in contact about 4 times but then stoped..i might run into him on sunday and idk how to confront him..it hurts that he is doing this..so tell me how do u guys deal with this?How do you deal with THE SILENT TREATMENT?
    Somtimes to give them the silent treatment they will realize how it feels, and they will talk then just ask what is wrongHow do you deal with THE SILENT TREATMENT?
    He might just be having trouble with his phone or computer. So don't assume he's ignoring you yet. Try talking to him in person.





    If he is still ignoring you then he's not worth your time. It's incredibly immature for a 21 year old to act that way.
    reverse physiology... it always works. start giving him the silent treatment... guys hate that
    well if you don't know why he's giving you the silent treatment, then confront him


    ask him why it is...and tell hiim it's getting really annoying


    if he still doesn't talk to you, flip him off and be done with it

    Wednesday, August 18, 2010

    How do guys deal with jealousy?

    well im a kind of a jealous person sometimes it doesnt bother and i just block it off but when it really gets to is when i feel depress ((sometimes out of the nowhere i feel depress)) when i feel depress i feel shitty and jealous n my depression combined with my jealousy has ruin relantionships how can get over this so i can be a better meHow do guys deal with jealousy?
    Jealousy is a result of insecurity, and the insecurity comes from fear.





    You need to ask yourself what you are afraid of. Is this fear reasonable or justified? Probably not.





    I used to be jealous a lot, and I worked it out of my system using basically the method described above.How do guys deal with jealousy?
    go to the gym and work it out man thats what I do
    Improve your lifestyle?
    If you are with someone, and they are willing to stay with you, it's almost like you can brag and be like hey, they are with me, and not you. Don't be so worried. :)
    just think who is she with and who does she really love if you see a guy checking her out just slide your hand in her back pocket and smile at the guy
    I just don't care really
    Not Well
    AA has wonderful classes on controlling your mental issues
    live each day for yourself... when you try to please and impress others you come out of yourself and are vunerable to the green headed monster.
    you should get busy..... go to the gym.. hang out with friends.. don't let your depression control you. have a happy life... for a happy relationship... lol
    First of all, try talking to who makes you jealous. If that doesn't work, feel free to go medeival on their @$$!
    by beating other guys up
    You get jealous and depressed because you lack information. We as people always feel depressed and very sensitive when things happen without our input or control.





    The question you have to pose to yourself is what is it exactly that you're jealous about. Is it the fact that he doesn't spend enough time with you, or you feel like you don't trust him spending his time with others?





    In any case you look at it, the trust issue or the lack of attention is what you must focus on. Jealousy is a by-product and cannot be dealt with on it's own because it is an honest reaction. If you suppress jealousy, something else will come out and replace it. What if he is cheating on you?... Jealousy will not fix this either.
    i agree with transmission--good answer!
    just realize that jealousy is a normal aspect of insecurity, find out what makes you insecure and then fix it!
    Just know that everyone aside from you is a chump...at least say thats what she thinks. No use in being jealous you cause more problems than you want trust me, my girlfriend and i we get into little bs scuffles over that'; like yesterday for instance i was with her and my heterolife mate Nebraska Phil, i said something about seeing our buddy's moms boobs when i was younger. She got all weird and started scoffing, thing is i thought this it was a good idea on account that she likes boobs more than i do, i myself am an *** man. I was explaining how they were hideous they had veracious veins and were all saggy and what not, when i made the worst move of all i said i wish i could see my other friends moms boobs...this was wrong very wrong. In conclusion its 12:38 in the afternoon the next say and shes still passed out sleeping not talking to me. So what you've gotta do is ask yourself is it worth it.
    not good